Having an escort changes isolation to inclusion in assisted living. Families often move loved ones into assisted living so they can enjoy more social interaction. As people grow older while living in their own homes, it becomes more difficult to get out. When dementia is part of the picture, that isolation is intensified. The obvious solution would seem to be a move into an assisted living facility, where there are people their own age and scheduled meals and activities.

But often people with dementia become further isolated after a move into assisted living. Why? Moving people with dementia takes away two very important tools that support their ability to function (see my blogs in early September on the value of mindlessness), so we want to ensure that moving them does produce the increased social involvement hoped for. To make sure it does, we need to keep two things in mind.

Introvert or extrovert? It’s important to realize that most of us are more introverted than extroverted. Introverts tend to function better and feel more comfortable in one-on-one situations or on the edge of the room when in a group. Being put into a group and expected to take part can cause someone who is introverted to shut down and withdraw rather than join in.

Also, being in a group does not preclude loneliness. We often feel less lonely when alone but free to follow our own inclinations than when in a group or crowd. The extrovert may see an opportunity to join in and have fun, but the introvert needs accommodation to not become more separated.

So, if your loved one is more introverted than extroverted, think carefully about what types of activities allow individual interactions rather than group interactions and help him or her form friendships with other more introverted residents.

Notice or escort? All assisted living facilities offer a notice service. You can pay for your loved one to be notified of meals, activities, and events. But keep in mind that what you are paying for is a staff member who will knock on the door and alert your loved one, nothing more.

Being notified of events is rarely sufficient for the person with dementia. Dementia takes away the ability to track time and the ability to plan – to bring to mind the one or two steps needed to attend. So, when someone with dementia is notified that lunch will be in ten minutes, s/he is not likely to be able to initiate using the bathroom, grabbing a sweater, heading down the hall to the dining room, and choosing a seat at a table.

Instead, ask the nursing director to build into your loved one’s care plan an escort to meals and selected activities. S/he will schedule a staff member to knock on the door and help your loved one get ready to attend, then walk with them to the activity. You should expect to pay for this service, for it takes scheduling and more staff time on the part of the facility.

When we move people with dementia into a care facility, we need to be careful to provide supports that enable them to truly enjoy the benefits we expect to be providing. This concludes my five-part discussion of how we can make moves easier on people with dementia.


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