At DAWN, we believe in preserving dignity and autonomy and allowing people to age in place for as long as possible. However, it is not always feasible to keep someone who is experiencing dementia at home. Here are a few more tips about how to make a move from home into a care facility less distressing.

Develop security in others before the move. If your loved one has been living at home with dementia for some time, it is likely that his or her sense of security is met exclusively by family members and being in the home. All too often, as the ability to take part in conversations or succeed at errands and tasks falters, people become isolated. It’s not that anyone intends that this happen, it simply will occur unless someone is available who knows how to facilitate conversation and maintain connections for people experiencing memory loss and confusion.

Here at DAWN, we begin working with new clients by introducing a caregiver as a friend and companion to spend time with in the community. When a client is facing a move, this becomes especially important. As they spend time with us, our new clients learn that they are safe. They accept being with us in the car even though they can’t recall the way home because we always bring them back safely; they stop being afraid to meet people they can’t remember because we manage conversation for them and destigmatize memory loss; they run errands with us or eat out without fear because we chatter about what’s happening and what will happen next.

When the time comes to move from home into a facility, we continue our visits and outings so that our clients experience continuity and routine. With a sense of security that extends beyond just family members and the home, it is much easier for someone with dementia to acclimatize when a move becomes necessary.

Give the sense of your continued presence. Having dementia means losing the ability to learn new things, such as how to do a task or recognize new faces or names, but we don’t lose our ability to learn entirely. Because dementia doesn’t seem to affect the intuitive thought processes, people with dementia continue to learn from their experiences. Please understand that our loved ones don’t stop experiencing things just because they can’t recall or recount them.

This makes it very important that we spend time with people with dementia immediately after a move into a new home or care situation. If we don’t, they will associate the move with abandonment, something that is very difficult to unlearn.

During the first few weeks after a move, you want your loved one to learn that you will continue to be present in the new home and that when you’re not there, you’ll be returning soon. You don’t have to be there for every meal, but be there more often than not. Help your loved one find tablemates that s/he is comfortable with. Escort your loved one to activities and then make arrangements for the facility to continue to provide escorts when you are not there. Be ready to pay for the additional service.

If you are primarily present at first, when the new surroundings and routine are still strange and scary, your loved one will internalize the knowledge that you are still part of their life. There is no greater gift you can give to someone with dementia who is experiencing a move.

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